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Its been a while since I wrote. I had been no contact with my NPD Father for more than a year. I had moved through the anger phase of no contact and had stopped fueling the fire by talking about his antics with my siblings. I had arrived at a point of forgiveness and sadness over my Dad's inability ...

Thanks, Beth. Good information again.
Cheech

Hi Beth -

Is it possible for my NPD Dad to file charges of desertion/abandonment against his children? I sense something coming down the pike.

Cheech

Yahoo! Another crisis and I used the tools you gave me. Amazing! No irritation and no getting roped into the drama. I stayed out of the fray and it felt (and feels) really good! It was a good day.
Cheech

Thanks for your reply. I think I get what you're saying. Your analogy was a great illustration of how I'm staying in the fray by listening to the stories about my Dad. However, my bros. aren't complaining about him as much as updating all of us so that we are all on the same page (because he lies so...

Dad (NP) was on a role over the holidays. In and out of hospitals and horrible to healthcare workers. Holidays always spike his already dramatic personality "quirks". He won't sign the HRS papers in order for them to file a report about his (and stepmother's) current living situation (whic...

Dear Grizelda: I was just like you about 10 years ago - thought therapy cost too much and I could just tough it out using printed resources. Not so! I am a living testimony to the benefits of therapy - both talk and medication. I was wearing everyone out that was around me. Our house went from one c...

Hi Amy: I know I'm getting to this a little bit late (6 mos.) but I'm a newbie here. I didn't realize that my Dad had NPD until well after my kids had been exposed to him (2 boys, now 20 & 18). One day, my eldest son blew me out of the water with this comment: "I think Grandpa Tom doesn't t...

Dear Beth: Thank you for your kind and supportive words...and you are right, my Dad owns his behavior. Good words to hear. The beat goes on. Since they haven't been answering their door and accepting the help of outside agencies, HRS has been called in. They have been told if they don't comply, the ...

My father is an 85 year old NP. I thank all of you (especially Beth) for your posts - they have helped me and my 11 siblings immensely. Dad is the image of the aging narcissist and is pulling out all of the stops, reverting to past, obnoxious behaviors to "up the ante" to get attention. He...