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About the priest who said mothers always love their children - what about Casey Anthony, Susan Smith, Andrea Yates, the recent case in Georgia I believe where the woman put her two sons, both under age 5, in a vehicle and let it roll into the lake, drowning the boys? Mothers don't always love their ...

Just popping in to thank you, Beth, for the great new blogs on boundaries over at families.com. I wish I could have known how to set boundaries like you advised the lady to do (about the pacifier.) I always felt upset and sort of child-like and would argue with my mother like I didn't have the autho...

Hello, whatisnormal! It's so good to see you again. I have this same problem about other people - worrying they'll ask me. I suppose since it's been a year and a half and I'm more comfortable with the NC, I tell myself that it's easier now - I just say she's fine/the home's fine/what a great place i...

I'm an only child too, and it does put a lot of burden on you. The up-side of being an only to an N, though, is they can never play the golden-child vs. scapegoat child game on you, and also, when you go NC, you have no siblings and nieces/nephews to lose (or to disagree with and fight with about yo...

I'm not Sunny but would love to comment on this subject, having been NC from my Narcissistic Mom since early '09. I was just on the families.com board, Beth, and I saw that dear Elinor had finally decided to cut ties with her NM. I've read her story with great concern and interest, and I'm glad she'...

My heart goes out to you, Veejmar. I promise I don't mean this in an accusative way -- for decades I stayed in my own nightmare with a Narc mom -- but what are your reasons for not going "no contact" (moving if you can; if you can't, change your phone number, refuse to answer the door, tel...

I've run into this question before. I'm interested if it's true in other countries, but in the US, in some states (about 30 of them, I think), there's something called "filial obligation" laws. They're seldom enforced, especially since the advent of Social Security and Medicare benefits, b...

Thanks, Cheech! I'll definitely consider it again, and I was only yesterday

Of the three I've tried in my life, one wasn't so bad (but I didn't know my mother was NPD and didn't even mention her.)

Beth, I'm like the biggest fan in the world of your postings, and this one is just so astounding and perfectly on-point when it comes to describing what I believe my problems are. I can't wait to get my hands on your book !! I think your advice is fantastic, but some of us either don't have the mone...

I've been away so long and I'm glad I dropped back in. So MUCH of what you wrote, whatisnormal (as usual) struck a bell. In order to "explain myself" to relatives and assisted-living workers, etc., I would have to tell the truth and "out" my mother. Yet, as Deborah's post was spe...