NPD GODMOTHER/AUNT
Posted: Fri Feb 06, 2015 7:01 am
I am 60 years old, still enabling my 90 year old NPD Aunt.
Since I can remember from age 8, this woman has caused our family so much heartache. When I was very young, she would come to our home and cry and cry, complaining she had “no feelings” and all that. Finally, she was diagnosed with a mental disorder and put into a facility for a few years. Nonetheless, she has sucked so much life from me and others.
She has never married and has no children. My father, who was her brother-in-law, would drive her to places and do all of these favors for her! Why? My father, who was a laborer by day and a father to 5 children, had to also cater to her needs?? Who volunteered him? My mother, her sister? So, I have concluded that I have been taught that I have to do for her as well. And I am the only one in the family who does so. My aunt has sabotaged ALL other relationships in her life. She literally has no friends, and no relatives that want to be near her.
She is manipulative, all about herself, has NEVER done anything favors for anyone and has reduced people to tears. She is a nasty person and I dislike her tremendously.
Sadly, she is dying of colon cancer. She has 3 months, I have been told. And while I continue to do all of these things for her, I am looking forward to being free of her. It is a freedom I have never experienced before in my life and I am so looking forward to it. I do not feel guilty for feeling this way at all and I do not feel guilty for disliking her. She has made it that way for me and many others. I just choose to “do the right thing” and be there for her til the end. How I wish I saw this sooner; I have sacrificed so much in my marriage and children’s lives for this woman! This newfound freedom that is coming to me is well deserved.
Since I can remember from age 8, this woman has caused our family so much heartache. When I was very young, she would come to our home and cry and cry, complaining she had “no feelings” and all that. Finally, she was diagnosed with a mental disorder and put into a facility for a few years. Nonetheless, she has sucked so much life from me and others.
She has never married and has no children. My father, who was her brother-in-law, would drive her to places and do all of these favors for her! Why? My father, who was a laborer by day and a father to 5 children, had to also cater to her needs?? Who volunteered him? My mother, her sister? So, I have concluded that I have been taught that I have to do for her as well. And I am the only one in the family who does so. My aunt has sabotaged ALL other relationships in her life. She literally has no friends, and no relatives that want to be near her.
She is manipulative, all about herself, has NEVER done anything favors for anyone and has reduced people to tears. She is a nasty person and I dislike her tremendously.
Sadly, she is dying of colon cancer. She has 3 months, I have been told. And while I continue to do all of these things for her, I am looking forward to being free of her. It is a freedom I have never experienced before in my life and I am so looking forward to it. I do not feel guilty for feeling this way at all and I do not feel guilty for disliking her. She has made it that way for me and many others. I just choose to “do the right thing” and be there for her til the end. How I wish I saw this sooner; I have sacrificed so much in my marriage and children’s lives for this woman! This newfound freedom that is coming to me is well deserved.