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by Beth McHugh
Mon Oct 15, 2018 10:35 am
Forum: Narcissistic Personality Disorder
Topic: At the end of my rope
Replies: 1
Views: 257

Re: At the end of my rope

A little backstory: My Dad has always been very judgmental & emotionally abusive to my siblings, Mom, and I. Although we lived in the same house I had no relationship with him until my Mom suddenly died when I was 16 and was forced to assume care for my 8- year - old sister per my Dad's instruction...
by Beth McHugh
Mon Oct 15, 2018 10:20 am
Forum: Narcissistic Personality Disorder
Topic: Dealing with Narcissistic Mother
Replies: 1
Views: 62

Re: Dealing with Narcissistic Mother

I would like to get some advice. My mother most likely has NPD, based on what I have read about it. She is so self-absorbed and will lie, cheat and steal from her own kids to make sure she gets what she wants. She has no regard for anyone but herself. She has emotionally and physically abused me si...
by Beth McHugh
Fri May 11, 2018 8:35 pm
Forum: Narcissistic Personality Disorder
Topic: Narcissistic Mother just died, I need help.
Replies: 1
Views: 281

Re: Narcissistic Mother just died, I need help.

I am having all sorts of emotional issues since my mother just died. She did a lot of bringing up every bad thing that has happened to me and asking me how so in so was (usually a person that had caused a lot of pain for me). She did die suddenly and I had been at the stage of not seeing her or tal...
by Beth McHugh
Sat Feb 03, 2018 10:45 am
Forum: Narcissistic Personality Disorder
Topic: Elderly mother driving me crazy! Sisters not helping.
Replies: 1
Views: 541

Re: Elderly mother driving me crazy! Sisters not helping.

Hi Sisu, It's great that you have been seeing a therapist and you have support in this situation. Although you are prepared to go greyrock, you seem to be unwittingly transferring many of your mother's thoughts and beliefs about you onto your sisters. You recognise you are the black sheep, and that ...
by Beth McHugh
Sat Jan 06, 2018 6:19 pm
Forum: Estranged Adult Children
Topic: Ex wife did a real job on Daughter
Replies: 1
Views: 554

Re: Ex wife did a real job on Daughter

We lived in London - ex wife moved back to Scotland with 3 year old daughter 35 years ago - tried to keep in contact for 35 years once a month telephone calls.... asked to wedding 3 years ago - surprised I came! - I don't know why.... daughter had serious depression through late teens through 20's ...
by Beth McHugh
Sat Jan 06, 2018 6:01 pm
Forum: Estranged Adult Children
Topic: From the childs point of view- Estrangement
Replies: 7
Views: 5857

Re: From the childs point of view- Estrangement

To everyone who has contributed to this posting thread -- thank you. There are so many reasons why an adult child decides to discontinue contact with a parent. Some involve parents who are genuinely and willfully harmful, and the adult child needs, usually after much therapy, to get out of situation...
by Beth McHugh
Fri Sep 15, 2017 2:19 pm
Forum: Narcissistic Personality Disorder
Topic: Elderly mother - desperate for help
Replies: 1
Views: 827

Re: Elderly mother - desperate for help

Dear wjaac, I think the last three sentences says it all. Logically, you need to put your family first, as they are a part of your future. Your mother needs assistance in her last days, but do you have have access to assisted living or a nursing home, or in-house care that can take over at least mos...
by Beth McHugh
Wed Aug 30, 2017 3:31 pm
Forum: Narcissistic Personality Disorder
Topic: Nfather & avoidant/dependent mother
Replies: 1
Views: 731

Re: Nfather & avoidant/dependent mother

Hi Cathy, Thanks for sharing your story. You have a right to be angry as you have been forced into a position at a young age to be what is called, "a Parentified Child". That is, you were forced to grow up too early to care for your parents, who have limitations that prevent them from being effectiv...
by Beth McHugh
Tue Jul 25, 2017 11:00 am
Forum: Narcissistic Personality Disorder
Topic: NPD Brother Chaos
Replies: 1
Views: 816

Re: NPD Brother Chaos

Hi tmwhite, Firstly, my condolences about your son - this would bring you so much sadness. However, you are dealing with a brother who is making life quite toxic for you. If you haven't already, have a read of the articles on NPD on the main website -- these will help in your understanding of the di...
by Beth McHugh
Wed Jul 12, 2017 12:20 pm
Forum: Narcissistic Personality Disorder
Topic: Grandchildren of a Narc
Replies: 3
Views: 1124

Re: Grandchildren of a Narc

Hi Clare, Yes, distance helps, but the scars remain. Sometimes it can help to point out narcissistic behaviour in others. They may not be narcissists, but only narcissistic traits. But when you notice a person behaving in this way, and it may even be in a movie, you could try pointing that out to yo...