Liking What You See in the Mirror
We all need to work consistently on maintaining a positive image of
ourselves. We need to train our brains just as much as our bodies. As
with exercise, if we don’t use it, we lose it! Once we start to
slide into regularly thinking negative thoughts, we quickly find ourselves
on a very slippery slope which leads to low self-esteem. How to stop
the rot? Read on...
- Accept compliments
Do not minimize or negate compliments. Don’t give excuses as
to why you look good or did a great job on a project. Accept these
compliments with a smile. If you don’t know what to say, just
say “Thank you,” then zip it!
- Pay compliments to others
One of the easiest ways to feel good about ourselves is to see the
good in the world around us and that includes other people. By praising
them you are giving them a gift, and we all know it is better to give
than to receive.
- Praise yourself
When you do a good job, mentally give yourself a pat on the back.
We can’t always rely on others to give us compliments, but who
better to give us one than ourselves?
- Remember you are not your actions
Be aware that your actions are not necessarily a part of your own
self worth. Just because you made a mistake does not mean that you,
the person, are a failure. Separate your behavior from your self.
- Let others know how you expect to be treated
We give out subtle cues every day about what we will and will not
accept from others. Make sure that you are giving out messages that
you will not be abused or mistreated. If something feels uncomfortable
to you, say so. Try not to smile and ignore a comment or behavior
that offends. Doing so sends out a very loud message about who you
are and the way you feel about yourself.
- Steer clear of being overcritical
Constantly criticizing others not only makes you seem like an unpleasant
person, but it has a more serious side-effect. People who are super-critical
are more likely to be overly critical of themselves, too. Let go of
the outer critic and you might find that you are more loving towards
yourself as well.
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