Coping with Death
We all have to cope with death. As the saying goes: “No one gets
out of this world alive!” We know it must inevitably happen yet
we are often not educated or prepared for it when it does come. We cope
with the death of loved ones largely by avoiding its certainty for as
long as possible, and hope that when the time comes we will somehow
muddle through it. There is probably nothing in life we prepare for
less, and yet there’s nothing in life that is more inevitable.
When you think about it, it’s a funny way to go about it.
It’s because we either fear death for ourselves and others, or
that it is often a taboo subject, that many of us have this strange
relationship with a process we must all go through. Occasionally one
meets people, usually the elderly or people who have suffered from long-term
illnesses, who have given the issue some thought and have chosen the
church, the hymns, the readings, the place and method of burial/cremation,
even the colors of clothing that attendees should wear. They have organized
all their financial matters, and said their “I love you’s”
and “goodbyes” to the important people in their lives. Many
have also said their piece to people who have negatively affected them
during the course of their lives. It is these people who have really
embraced the opportunity to cope with their own mortality and made a
positive out of it, rather than the negative most of us see death as.
One way of coping with our own death is to meditate on what it means
for us to be dead. To be no longer be able to participate in life as
we now know it. For some people that is a hard thing to do, and many
avoid it like the plague. Yet in contemplating life without “you,”
you have an opportunity to really embrace life with “you”
in it. Formal meditation on your own death, although it may sound morbid,
can actually fill your life with meaning and purpose as you realize
just how important it is to be alive. It also helps you to better decide
what is important and what is unimportant in your life and act accordingly.
So what started out as a article on dying has paradoxically ended up
as a blog on better living.
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